Peace I leave you, my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubles neither let it be afraid.

John 14:27

  • Keep talking—don’t be afraid to talk about the cancer or chemo process. Be willing to listen to all of the many emotions the patient may have.
  • Take care of you—make sure that you are getting the support that you need to. Use a close friend that you can confide in when things get tough.
  • Try not to tell them what to do or how to do it. Most of the time the patient will have no idea what to do, but they will want to make the decision on their own. Let them, give them as much control as you can. They need to feel like they are not losing control.
  • Fasten your seat belts and enjoy the ride. You will be doing many different tasks. Be flexible and try to keep a positive attitude whenever possible.
  • Be ready to speak up and help when the patient is overwhelmed. There will be a lot of information thrown at them, try your best to sift through everything for them.
  • Offer to take the patient to their medical appointments. Help the patient come up with questions to ask the doctor and take notes.
  • Be prepared for the many different moods of the patient. There will be good days and bad days. Be ready to support them through thick and thin.
  • Let the patient be in control! Support, Support, Support. Support them when making a decision, but never make a decision for them. Remember, this is their life, their body, and their future.
  • Don’t be different. Make sure that you are being yourself. Re-assure them that your relationship will not change, and you are committed to them 100%.
  • The best medicine…verbalize your love and support for them. Be creative, write it, say it, or show it by your actions. The only thing worse than being diagnosed with cancer is watching someone you love go through it. As a caregiver, you will experience many of the same emotions.These tips should not take the place of medical advice but hopefully give you some insight on ways to care for a loved one. Remember you are a huge part of making their journey a success.